What is the 4 gift rule?
The 4 gift rule gives each person four presents: something they want, something they need, something to wear, and something to read. It is the shorter cousin of the 5 gift rule and suits birthdays, where a smaller pile is enough. There is no official version, so swap the slots to fit the person.
The four gifts
- Something they want The one thing from their wish list.
- Something they need A practical item that makes a daily routine easier.
- Something to wear Clothing or an accessory in a size you are sure about.
- Something to read A book or magazine that fits what they love.
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